Experiences of fear
My experience with fears might sound a little obtuse to everyone else, but that also could be in my head and no one else's LOL.
Very little makes me fear or react, but when it does, it isn’t comfortable. But I think all of you will benefit from knowing how I handle what makes me cringe the most.
I can’t read everyone perfectly in every situation. When starting my last job, I was delivered straight into the fire to handle a client that wasn’t happy. My new company had just lost their systems engineer and this bank needed work done fast. So for three weeks straight, no idea of what culture my company had: I’m expected to do everything right. No training or knowledge of best practices. Straight into the fire. I was on edge. The feeling you get when you almost step off a high ledge and your legs feel electrified.
To overcome this, I rely on anchoring to the outcome. Similar to eating a particular food you don’t really like, but you know it’s good for you.
Making clients happy by delivering answers and solutions can be hair-raising and difficult at times. But the end result is worth bearing the pain of some fear and uncomfortableness. Your clients will rely on that you can do what is difficult when it is needed.
There are many psychologies you can read as well to overcome some of those things you fear, but talking to your peers and sharing your experiences can be the most rewarding.
Having issues or problems at school when you just aren’t getting where you want to go, or an assignment isn’t clear to you, just means it is an opportunity to engage with peers, mentors, advisors and or family. If you have nothing in place, it is important to gain the skill of acquiring that type of resource.
"You should never view your challenges as a disadvantage. Instead, it's important for you to understand that your experience facing and overcoming adversity is actually one of your biggest advantages" (Michelle Obama).
Michelle's statement here isn't something everyone just happens to "get" right away.